Cookies help us deliver our Services. We all have our own battles. I've got to be the only sick person in my group of friends/family/work environment etc. I'm not trying to discredit you or say that your problems aren't bad at all! Yes this is real event my ocd. Although, I think that can be said for a lot of kinks! New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I met an amazing woman who is the only person I've ever truly wanted to be with, but I've slowly realized she was put in my life to make me realize what an awful human being I've been and to punish me for it by the fact that I can never be with her. What if the past experience(s) caused EXTREME anxiety and guilt ALL and EVERY DAY! Even when a real event is the trigger for OCD rumination, the actions—compulsions—taken to deal with the thoughts about a true or imagined occurrence are the problem, not the thoughts about it or its potential consequences. We tend to learn from our errors and then move forward. How to End Feelings of Shame when You Have OCD. This all-encompassing fear that karma will come to "get" me, that I am a despicable person for decisions I made in my past and that I'll be "cancelled" for my mistakes. For what it's worth, whatever you've done, whatever your shameful of, I forgive you. But recently when I look things up on the internet to "fap" to I feel nothing but guilt and I bring it on myself. Also know that OCD distorts, caracturizes, and blows up mistakes that you've been over before. We have all made mistakes in our life. You can get the help, and possible medication that may alleviate some of these issues. I actually prefer women who are older than myself and I always have but that doesn't stop me from feeling guilt. ... but sometimes they have stuff on there from when an actress was 16/17 years old and if I come across it I feel intense shame. You are different and you recognize your mistakes, no matter how horrible they were. REAL EVENT OCD. I just wish I wasn't so weak and I want to thank you for posting your response on here. Home » OCD » Unsure if Real Event Should Be Treated as OCD or Not. I think of them. Then when I'm scrolling through things I'll see something on there and start obsessing about the age of the person. The self-awareness aspect came about a year after something I did which was absolutely disgusting and I hated, even loathed, myself for a very long time. Things like today and seeing these things accidentally make me realize that I have a problem. Real event OCD can be insidious because along with anxious thoughts and feelings, it also presents with pervasive feelings of guilt and shame about something which you did in the past. Common Real Event OCD Compulsions - Mental review - Trying hard to figure out what exactly happened, why it happened, and what it says about you as a person - Trying to recall all the little details of the event (while constantly questioning the accuracy of your recollection) What if the past experience(s) caused EXTREME anxiety and guilt ALL and EVERY DAY! I've never raped or molested anyone, but I was into some taboo fantasies when it comes to masturbation fantasies or watching things on the internet. It numbs me and when I start dieting and doing well the guilt overwhelms and empowers me. Well I was scrolling through it and I saw someone on there who looked relatively young, clicked away and found other porn to look at and finished. I hope things get easier for you! I'm sorry you have those feeling too, it's a hard feeling to deal with and I hope it gets easier for you. Ask the Therapist . See what Real Event OCD looks like and what the treatment is. Please read below for more information and resources about about OCD and what this subreddit is! Real event ocd. The 'you're a terrible person' brain reminder is also very current for me. This topic has 10 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated 3 weeks ago by anita. I'm so terrified people will find out, but if that day ever happened I would own up to it. My apologies there and I appreciate you writing your experiences and support. If it helps, though, I can totally relate. All I ever do anymore is sit around and think about the kind of person I have been. TRIGGER WARNINGS. I've been going to this website for years and have never had to worry about this and now I'm feeling awful about it, like I'm a straight up sick human being. Re: Real Event OCD & Guilt by throwaway5487 » Wed Apr 19, 2017 11:22 pm but did I molest my sibling somehow? If you've recognized some of the things you've done in the past as wrong, you're on the path to becoming a much better person. If this is true, you didn't purposefully do anything wrong at the time, it was born out of ignorance and maybe impulse; if this is not true, remember that everyone makes mistakes and does wrong things. We were there for 6 months. It's pretty difficult for me to get through the day without thinking about suicide. Though I am much younger than you, I have too done some terrible, terrible things and I often ruminate about them and consider myself a monster. You can call it “hOCD,” “rOCD,” “scrupulosity OCD,” “pOCD, “ and, yes, “real-event OCD,” if you like. Real-Event OCD, Guilt, and Pornography. I'll be better some days than others and then it'll come back full force. I feel like I start doing better but then it gets worse because I can't quit searching for things to "fap" to on the internet. I feel the same way. Certain symptoms can trigger this feeling, such as having sexual or violent thoughts or believing that you are responsible for causing harm to others. I know that porn isn't healthy and it's not a solution. I need to take my own advice, too! I'm sorry for offending anyone, but I needed to post this. Posted on September 9, 2020 September 9, 2020 by Yan Baskets. We tend to learn from our errors and then move forward. So that helps me a bit. It tears me up inside and I can't let go of these thoughts at all. Where other people don’t retain these situations. I remember desperately hoping that it was a nightmare and I didn't actually do it but I was left with reality. I’ve cut so many websites out because they have that stuff on there. I'm just saying I've done some awful things and it's hard for me to just accept this advice, but that's my own problem. I remember thinking "what would Mom think about me if she knew this?" Posts. It conjures up memories of something that you did which was … Anyways. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. The sufferer believes they made an egregious mistake or have even committed a crime (what they did was so terrible), yet everyone around them responds that no such crime exists or that the mistake is nothing to worry about. OCD often changes its focus from one theme to another but all its many manifestations share a common underlying cognitive feature: intolerance of uncertainty. Viewing 11 posts - 1 through 11 (of 11 total) Author. It was absolute HELL and I had no idea that this was a form of OCD. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. i don't know if i can accept not thinking about it without feeling bad. Even murderers, rapists, etc. I was living with my brother-in-law while our house was being built. Are you doing cbt? Feeling guilt and shame demonstrates that you strive to be a good person. A subreddit dedicated to discussion, articles, and images regarding OCD. my OCD first manifested in the form of real event OCD with overwhelming feelings of guilt, shame and regret. We may feel guilt or shame due to the event for a short time. That's all you can do. I stopped the really "abhorrent" fantasies years ago but I never stopped masturbating. I’m sorry if I offend anyone. Today I was "fapping" and on a safe movie website where they add movie scenes and you can scroll through their recent additions. I actually prefer the more non-gratuitous stuff like you would find in movies. Thank You and I hope it gets easier for you as well! Feeling guilt and shame demonstrates that you strive to be a good person. I know that I'm not actively searching for it, but when things like today happen it brings me back to my guilt. I still think about it sometimes--less than before--but it's still often. It's important to know that you are not the person you were before. I think when people look at me, they don't immediately see what I've done. We had to share a room with my 1 yr old and it’s a small house. Okay so I have a very close friend that I've … have a chance at redemption and you do as well. Then it started to bother me and of course I searched the movie and the person was 16 years old when they filmed it. This is something I’ve never dealt with. You were only move forward if you learn not to seek reassurance from others and stop reviewing the situation. Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. We tend to learn from our errors and then move forward. Some websites and professionals call this OCD theme something like real-life OCD, because an event did take place in real life that has become the focus of the sufferer. It's where your interests connect you with your people. It's like a feeling I don't deserve happiness. Unfortunately I did know better, I should've made that more clear on my part. We may feel guilt or shame due to the event for a short time. I haven't posted in a while because I've actually been doing a lot better lately but there's something I just want to get off my chest. Many people with OCD experience extreme guilt. From what I read in your post, you didn't know that what you did was wrong when you committed the acts. Thank you for the kindness. I also suggest seeking a therapist, one who specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. With everything that's been going on in Hollywood and all of the awful acts that men have been doing to women and other celebrities it adds to my constant guilt. My real event OCD for some reason makes me feel guilty over past events with the opposite sex, especially 2 events in particular. I agree that I need to see someone and this is what I worried about when I typed out my message is that I don't really have a kink for it. *Trigger Warning* I'm going to apologize ahead of time because my post is going to be all over the place, but I'm just having to get this out there because it's eating me alive. Also know that OCD distorts, caracturizes, and blows up mistakes that you've been over before. The good news, however, is the treatment is the same no matter what type of OCD you have. I sound like I'm making excuses and I'm trying not to, but telling myself I'm not actively searching these things out doesn't help and I just sit there and think to myself. Home → Forums → Tough Times → Real event OCD obsession. It sounds like you need to see a counselor about this. Real event OCD can be insidious because along with anxious thoughts and feelings, it also presents with pervasive feelings of guilt and shame about something which you did in the past. My mind convinces me i am a rapist and a bad person and obviously the last thing i want is to be that so it causes me immense anxiety at times. If you think there is any way of resolving or helping what you did before, you can try. Additio... – Luister direct op jouw tablet, telefoon of browser naar Real Event OCD, Cancel Culture, and Reassurance van FearCast - geen downloads nodig. You are focusing on past events and magnifying their importance. Sometimes I think of this and while I've not done any truly horrible things, I've done things that make me cringe and I avoid anything to bring me back to any thoughts regarding stupid past decisions. I realize when people look at me they don't immediately think of how I've fucked up, they just think of me or see me and don't think of things I've done first thing unless it's brought up. They will not judge you, they have heard many, many things. My Confession: Sexual OCD, POCD, Real-Event OCD, and The Constant Shame I Bring On Myself. I know that I am, but I don't want to be a bad man but when these things happen I feel like my world is closing in around me. Sex was out of the question. There's some things people are into that I think are crazy, but they'd think the same thing about the things I'm into, and that's okay! There are so many variations of OCD: hit-and-run OCD, harm OCD, and real event OCD, to name a few. New Reply. The breeze that becomes a tornado. Followers 0. I'm a binge eater as well and I eat food like a drug addict would take drugs. I'm almost 30 years old and up until my mid-20's I did some things that I'm not proud of. If it weren't for this prevalent culture I honestly think I wouldn't be struggling with real event OCD nearly as badly today. OP, I recommend in the strongest possible terms that you seek out a psychiatrist. For years I thought I was a terrible person and as soon as I started reading up on Real Event OCD I realised there was a name for it, and other people like me. But I can't let them go because I feel like that's the wrong thing to do and all I can ever think is about what would people really think about me if they knew about my shame. Press J to jump to the feed. I'm terrified to even type this out because What if someone comes and arrest me and everyone finds out what a sick freak I am, but I can't hold it in any longer. I discuss this subtype, including its common obsessions, compulsions, and treatment. Real event OCD. I'm going to apologize ahead of time because my post is going to be all over the place, but I'm just having to get this out there because it's eating me alive. Anyway, I really think seeing a counselor and talking through these issues would help you. So to start off I want to say that I've never officially been diagnosed with OCD/Anxiety but I'm almost 95% sure I have it because I do nothing but live with guilt/fear about every bad thing I've done, especially when it comes to Sexual Things. Please read below for more information and resources about about OCD and what this subreddit is! Please don't take it like I don't appreciate what you have to say, because I do and I thank you for it. I've even done NoFap and done pretty good on some long streaks but it never eases the guilt. Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) affects your thoughts and behaviors in a way that might make you feel weird or different. I think that's also common with some kinks, if not all of them, haha. SO SO Difficult when it's based on real stuff, but the brain distorts it. A subreddit dedicated to discussion, articles, and images regarding OCD. Press J to jump to the feed. This episode tackles the very real, and very troubling, OCD subtype known as Real Event, or Real Life, OCD. Just them. It … Check out my ONLINE self-directed program for OCD. If you think there is any way of resolving or helping what you did before, you can try. It hurt to look at anyone I loved because I thought that I didn't deserve them, and that they would rightfully despise me/be repulsed at me/think of me entirely different if they knew what I did, so I definitely relate to what you're saying. Especially if having a nice time with my husband etc. - Overwhelming feelings of guilt or shame. We may feel guilt or shame due to the event for a short time. Hello everyone, It wasn't until I got older that I realized what a piece of shit I've been in my life and that I didn't deserve to be alive. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I know that I'm probably going to offend people and I'm sorry, especially to every woman in the world I've ever been disrespectful to. Clearly it's really affecting your self-image and how you think of yourself. Real event ocd Sign in to follow this . I just want to stop feeling guilt and I understand that I bring it on myself. Unsure if Real Event Should Be Treated as OCD or Not Asked … By helloocd, December 27, 2018 in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Reply to this topic; ... but it would be a shame to allow that to continue to define the rest of your life. or is that one of those things where I might never know and should move on? Re: Tips for dealing with Real Event OCD by Snaga » Tue May 30, 2017 6:43 pm NoTrevelyan1995 wrote: Then when I'm around the person who I love more than anything in this world, all I do is sit there and think that she would hate me a shun me if she ever found out these things about me. I relate massively to real event ocd. All of my kink-material is artwork or erotica, so not even real, but sometimes I still feel gross, too. It's like when I'm searching for porn I have ADD and I just keeping trying to find the right thing and then when I see something that makes me feel guilt it hits me hard. OCD and guilt – understanding why you feel that you’ve done wrong. Discussions about so-called “real-life” OCD imply that obsessions about events that actually happened, rather than about future-oriented, hypothetical possibilities, are somehow more valid. I start it soon. I am not going to reassure you about the situation because that’s what makes it worse. I've never downloaded or found anything illegal, but that doesn't stop my immoral behavior or pictures I've "fapped" to or the different subjects. When I look for things I usually go to safe sites. The days I spent in bed staring at a blank wall pulling my hair out I could have literally walked to Vladivostok and back – several times. See what Real Event OCD looks like and what the treatment is. Participant. When I look at others I don't think first of what stupid or mean thing they've done. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. By realizing this, you already have such an advantage over your intrusive thoughts although it probably doesn’t feel this way. I have a kink that I've had since I was a kid, and if people knew about it, they'd probably think I was sick. I don't want to be a sick human being but I realize that I am and I know how incoherent my post is. I've done some awful things in my life, I'm almost 30 years old, and it wasn't until recently that my self-awareness kicked in, and I hate that it's taking me so long to become aware of things. Now something new has come up. I just feel the immense guilt from seeing it while searching through other things. I wouldn't have these problems if I would just "fap" to my fantasies instead of searching for stuff. That's all you can do. Thank you for replying, but I have done some awful things. I have accepted that I need to stop analysing the event itself, and that the OCD is the problem - but I'm at a loss as to how to actually manage this and overcome it. It's like a constant circle of negativity and low self-esteem. December 7, 2020 at 9:38 am #370580. sad.cloud. 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